Chemistry – Should you feel it on the first date?
My first answer would be a Yes. I believe when we meet someone for the first time, we make an assessment in the first 10-15 minutes, possibly less, whether or not we feel an attraction. In fact, in popular speed dating events, there is only a 5-minute window to determine if you want to move forward. My belief in the goose bumps may have me in the minority though because, in a Match.com study, 59% of us do not expect chemistry to show up until the second date or beyond. What? My problem with that is simply….if there is no chemistry on the first date, what prompts the second one?? As it turns out, a couple of things. Consideration. This is the “I’ve been there too” perspective. Every first date is not going to be our most outstanding moment. Many times we are nervous and can’t relax enough to truly be ourselves. The flow of the pheromones can be interrupted by apprehension. Feeling bad physically can muffle chemistry vibes as well. Several years ago I went o...