J Hope Suis

In what I find to be quite interesting, apparently the best time to find someone for a long-term relationship is Tuesday at 2 pm. I suppose 2 o’clock is a respectable time of day; not too early and not too late; doesn’t appear desperate. The study I read did not specify WHY this day was so popular, just that it was the peak time for those logging into their dating service to find a match. Maybe this is because they waited the ‘mandatory’ three days to hear from their Friday night date. (Now for me, if they are not impressed enough to shoot me a text the next day just to say Hi, I’m not waiting around.) Or maybe watching The Voice or DWTS on Monday nights puts them in a romantic mood. Speaking of romantic….Michigan and Vermont are considered to be the most romantic states according to POF. With Louisiana as the least romantic. What’s going on in the bayou?? (Obviously, not very much.)  Vermont also ranks as the safest state for online dating. Coincidentally, they are also the...

If so, you are in great company! There are roughly 34.4 million singles in the US aged 40-69 as cited by  EliteSingles.com.  According to the Census Bureau, 29% of adults age 45-59 are now single, compared with only 19 percent in 1980. This 10% hike coincides with the divorce rate in this age group. The ‘until death do us part’ is increasingly being re-phrased in today’s wedding vows with couples opting for a more forgiving ‘as long as our lo ve shall last’ view. It appears the love seems to start to fade about the same time the mid-life crisis takes shape. Instead of a shiny new car, more are taking the route of a crisp new divorce decree. To be honest, most of us did not intend to be here. Starting over in mid-life can be scary and even frustrating. It may be comforting to know others are with you on the same Singles Highway. You are not traipsing out here kicking up a lone trail of dust like a Mad Max movie. There is a community of folks all around dealing with the same sit...

Mid-Life Crisis – SIM Style ‘Back in the day’, having a mid-crisis either meant buying a fast new shiny car or having a scandalous affair. Now, with 34+ million of us SIMs (Single In Mid-Life) running around in 2017, the times they are a’changing. Those of us who want a new shiny car already have one, and we’ll take travel and adventure over scandal any day. So what does today’s crisis look like?  Anxiety. We aren’t bored or feeling discontent. We feel overwhelmed. Many of us  started having children later, so mid-life for those also means middle school students. We are wrestling with role reversal as we often become caregivers for aging parents. Also, growing up in a self-help era, we constantly feel the need to better ourselves; our minds, our bodies, our kitchen table…the world! Pinterest makes sure to remind us every day we could be doing something better, faster, cheaper. And all the while, we face these challenges without a partner oftentimes dealing with the pain of ...