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One Night On Champagne Bluffs

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Jessie had the radio blasting as she cleaned Cabin #3 (The Blue Oyster). In the spring/summer months, she paid one of the local teenage girls in town to help with the cleaning, but during cooler weather, she took care of most everything herself. She had lived here, near or on, the bluffs her entire 46 years and owned Bluff  By  The Bay Cabins for 20 of those. She enjoyed meeting new people and the scenery could not be beaten in her little corner of the world.  Her last guest had checked out early this morning after a month-long stay for work. She was thankful for that stay because business started slowing down after October. Champagne Bluffs, VA was a popular spot in the summer and even briefly during the fall when the leaves turned brilliant shades of orange, yellow and reds, but the winter months grew quite lonely up here. Many tourists were confused, and some even scoffed, at the name ‘bluff’. Coastal Virginia isn’t exactly known for being mountainous and in reality, most bl
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Chemistry – Should you feel it on the first date?

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My first answer would be a Yes. I believe when we meet someone for the first time, we make an assessment in the first 10-15 minutes, possibly less, whether or not we feel an attraction. In fact, in popular speed dating events, there is only a 5-minute window to determine if you want to move forward.  My belief in the goose bumps may have me in the minority though because, in a Match.com study, 59% of us do not expect chemistry to show up until the second date or beyond. What? My problem with that is simply….if there is no chemistry on the first date, what prompts the second one?? As it turns out, a couple of things. Consideration.  This is the “I’ve been there too” perspective. Every first date is not going to be our most outstanding moment. Many times we are nervous and can’t relax enough to truly be ourselves.  The flow of the pheromones can be interrupted by apprehension. Feeling bad physically can muffle chemistry vibes as well. Several years ago I went on a first date
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#1 Online Dating Advice…Book a flight to Vermont next Tuesday morning.

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In what I find to be quite interesting, apparently the best time to find someone for a long-term relationship is Tuesday at 2 pm. I suppose 2 o’clock is a respectable time of day; not too early and not too late; doesn’t appear desperate. The study I read did not specify WHY this day was so popular, just that it was the peak time for those logging into their dating service to find a match. Maybe this is because they waited the ‘mandatory’ three days to hear from their Friday night date. (Now for me, if they are not impressed enough to shoot me a text the next day just to say Hi, I’m not waiting around.) Or maybe watching The Voice or DWTS on Monday nights puts them in a romantic mood. Speaking of romantic….Michigan and Vermont are considered to be the most romantic states according to POF. With Louisiana as the least romantic. What’s going on in the bayou?? (Obviously, not very much.)  Vermont also ranks as the safest state for online dating. Coincidentally, they are also the lea
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Are you a SIM? (Single In Mid-Life)

If so, you are in great company! There are roughly 34.4 million singles in the US aged 40-69 as cited by  EliteSingles.com.  According to the Census Bureau, 29% of adults age 45-59 are now single, compared with only 19 percent in 1980. This 10% hike coincides with the divorce rate in this age group. The ‘until death do us part’ is increasingly being re-phrased in today’s wedding vows with couples opting for a more forgiving ‘as long as our lo ve shall last’ view. It appears the love seems to start to fade about the same time the mid-life crisis takes shape. Instead of a shiny new car, more are taking the route of a crisp new divorce decree. To be honest, most of us did not intend to be here. Starting over in mid-life can be scary and even frustrating. It may be comforting to know others are with you on the same Singles Highway. You are not traipsing out here kicking up a lone trail of dust like a Mad Max movie. There is a community of folks all around dealing with the same situation. T
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Mid-Life Crisis – SIM Style

Mid-Life Crisis – SIM Style ‘Back in the day’, having a mid-crisis either meant buying a fast new shiny car or having a scandalous affair. Now, with 34+ million of us SIMs (Single In Mid-Life) running around in 2017, the times they are a’changing. Those of us who want a new shiny car already have one, and we’ll take travel and adventure over scandal any day. So what does today’s crisis look like?  Anxiety. We aren’t bored or feeling discontent. We feel overwhelmed. Many of us  started having children later, so mid-life for those also means middle school students. We are wrestling with role reversal as we often become caregivers for aging parents. Also, growing up in a self-help era, we constantly feel the need to better ourselves; our minds, our bodies, our kitchen table…the world! Pinterest makes sure to remind us every day we could be doing something better, faster, cheaper. And all the while, we face these challenges without a partner oftentimes dealing with the pain of divorce. 
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